Where did you get the idea for Missing You, Finding Me?
My husband and I have been married for 25 years and during that time I have seen how easy it can be to get out of sync with your partner simply from lack of communication. For my novel Missing You, Finding Me, I wanted to take this idea to the nth degree—to illustrate would happen if lack of communication drove a couple to live separate lives. I experimented with writing from different points of few, finally deciding to tell the story alternately from the first person POV of each spouse. It was important to me to show the reader that both characters are good people, even as they each make choices that make them look guilty in their partner’s eyes.
How did you come up with your main character and the challenges she faces?
Having spent most of my married life as a homemaker and homeschool mom, dependent on my husband’s income, I often wondered what I would do if something happened to him or to his job. I made my main character a homeschool mom, too, so her husband’s disappearance would have the greatest possible impact on her life.
What do you consider to be the central questions driving the novel?
As I took my main character through the steps to make a new life, including pursuing a career she’d given up when she’d married and had kids, I found myself wrestling with these central questions:
- What if the “perfect” life she’d been living turned out to be different from the life she truly wanted?
- What path would she choose if she had the opportunity to return to her old life once she’d established a new life on her own?
What kind of research did you do for the novel?
My primary research for this book involved touring the Culinary Institute of America (CIA) in St. Helena, CA and accompanying my husband as he attended a bread-baking boot camp. This, plus reading online accounts from participants, inspired the experience my main character has in the book. My high school French classes and two trips to France provided inspiration as well. I also had to do online research about legal aspects of insider trading, divorce and child custody in California.